When I become a mother...I'm sorry, IF I become a mother...I will never judge my kids how my mother judges me. What exactly is 'judgement', you ask? Well, let me clarify for you what 'judgment' is...
judg·ment [juhj-muh
nt]
nt]–noun
1.
an act or instance of judging.
There you go. Now you know what 'judgement' really mean. 'Lisa's Mother' should be under that description also. She thinks threatening her daughter with not paying for college if I don't 'knock off all the freakish behavior' such as piercings, dreading hair & CONSIDERING tattoos. Seriously? Last time I checked those were just ways for a person to define themselves. In all honesty, why do people care so much if it's not hurting anyone? If it's doing no one harm & NO ONE is getting effected by it; who the hell cares?
My family is broken. They like to pretend like we are 'okay' but we aren't. I still haven't figured out a way to tell my Mother that i'm not coming back home when i'm done with college. She has it set in her mind that when i'm done with college, everything will be the same just now I have a college education. Bull. That's not how life works & it's kind of sad that she hasn't figured it out.
I won't even get started on my sisters & their judgement. This entry would be probably a novel if I were to do so.
On the sunny side...my Polaroid film came in the mail and now I must go make Christmas cards.
Well, I cannot answer for your mother, but I can answer as "a" mother. Sometimes you just have to forgive us for our actions. For our generation wearing dreadlocks, piercing your body anywhere other than your earlobes (assuming you were female), and permanently inking one's skin was frowned upon. Then again, we wouldn't be caught dead in Converse shoes as they were considered so cheap. Oh ya, and those of us who dared to embrace technology were called nerds, dweebs, dorks and other unfriendly names.
ReplyDeleteAs mothers we don't want you to ever have to suffer the wrath of others who will mistake your need to creatively express yourself or hermetically seal yourself to a piece of technology as some sort of personality or mental disorder. We would rather lay down and die than think one other human being might be mean to you because you chose to tattoo or pierce yourself.
Bottom line, we, your mother and I, are just out of touch now. We are no longer cool, hip, or awesome. And it is so hard to admit that, especially to ourselves. And sometimes we don't mean to, but we slip and speak before we think. We fail to realize that your life experience is different than ours was.
For all of the mothers out there I humbly apologize. I am trying to love my kids unconditionally, without the attitudinal confines of my own life experience, but it's hard, and I too sometimes screw up. One thing you can always count on is that we love you and will love you forever.